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March 4, 2021
Giving is Really Receiving
If I was told a few years ago that I would bake challah every week and feel so passionate about it, I wouldn’t have believed it. I’m sharing my experience with you as it has brought so much goodness to my life, healing during this pandemic, personal growth, and connection to Hashem and such wonderful people.
As a newly married woman, sixteen years ago, my husband and I would often be invited for Shabbat meals at our friends’ homes. I was always so impressed by the taste, aroma, and beauty of their bread, enjoying it with the delicious meal that was served. Although I always loved cooking, I didn’t take to baking challah. I attempted to make it a few times and it just didn’t work for me. The dough would come out tough. There was something missing. I couldn’t figure it out.
When my older girls were small, my husband decided that he wanted to make challah for Shabbat. Being involved in getting ready for Shabbat is important to him and most of all he enjoys. The Torah teaches that each member of the family should participate in the preparations for Shabbat. Some of our great Sages would stop their learning to set the table for Shabbat, do the groceries, prepare the candles and the wicks, and other tasks. For many months, on Thursday nights, I made the dough and Ilan would knead and braid the challah. Not only are those moments special memories in our early years of marriage, but they also showed me truly what a special man I am blessed to have in my life.
Let’s fast forward about five years. Life became fuller and busier with more children and responsibilities. Each week, I would go to one of the bakeries in our area and buy several loaves of challah and rolls for Shabbat. One day, my friend and I decided to bake challah together. What I didn’t know then was that from that moment on, my challah baking would begin and continue weekly until today. For many months, my friend and I would get together Friday morning, prepare the dough, wait for it to rise, do the hafrashah, braid and bake the challah. I learned some amazing tricks and techniques from watching her (and all the love she put into it!). Once the pandemic and lockdown happened, we could no longer bake together in person, which for a while made me sad. Nevertheless, we found a way to come together and keep our ritual going through weekly video calls.
Over the past few months, my challah baking moved in a whole new direction, when I met an incredible individual named Esther. From the moment I met her, I could feel her kindness, love, warm heart, and beautiful energy. I received a message through a group I had joined, which spoke about her organization that helps families in our community. While Esther was asking for help from women to prepare meals for Shabbat and holidays, what she may not have realized was how much she would give to those who were giving to her. She charged me with the task of baking challah. When Shabbat ends, I am already looking forward to connecting with Esther to discuss the plan for the coming week.
Much like other women and moms have shared with me, the pandemic left a void for each of us in different ways. In reflecting upon the past year, I now see that baking challah has been a healing experience that helped replace some of the sadness, overwhelm, and frustration I felt at times, with an inner calm and joy. Sharing my challah is a huge blessing that Hashem has bestowed upon me, for which I am so grateful. Each time I give someone challah they thank me, but it is really I who should thank them.
The mitzvah of challah has taught me a few important lessons. First, that we should never despair because when we open our eyes and take a look, something wonderful is happening right in front of us. Surrounding ourselves with people who will lift us up and influence us to do great things is what helps us grow, become better people, and can bring us lots of joy. Giving is really receiving, as when we give we are able to feel more open, connected, and joyful. When I see my family eating the challah, I realize that this challah has the power to create feelings of warmth and love, providing us with special memories of Shabbat that we will cherish forever. Association Les Anges D'Esther is holding a fundraising campaign to raise money for Passover. food and essential items. To learn more about Esther's organization, contact on estherlevy555@gmail.com, Facebook: Esther Levy or Instagram @les_anges_d_esther_association.
Shabbat Shalom
Xoxo
Beth
September 16, 2019
Routines: Getting Back into the Groove
Summer has come to an end as it always does and our children have already experienced some full weeks of school. Curriculum evenings have happened and homework has been assigned. Like most children, my kids are not that excited about homework! The school day is long and it has gotten even longer with the new ministry mandate to add more play to the day. During the summer children follow a completely different routine, which can make it hard for them to readjust to the school routine. I know I see it in my kids when they come home. Last week my six year old daughter told me she doesn’t want to do homework and she is just too tired from working all day. I get it! So how do we support our children to ease into the school year routine. Here are some ideas.
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While the weather is still nice encourage your child to spend time outside after school. Children spend most of their waking hours indoors and once winter comes they will spend even more. This is the perfect weather to get fresh air, play, read, and even complete homework outdoors.
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Spend some time on the weekend looking at the week ahead. Take out the calendar and your child’s schedule and ask them to share with you what will be happening this week. Ask them what they are excited about and what they feel more reluctant to do. By expressing what they are feeling and reviewing the week they will ease into it with less reluctance and some excitement.
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Commit to a regular bedtime for children of all ages. At our house we have been trying to get everyone in bed and relax by 8:00 pm. Follow whatever works in your home. The important part is that it is predictable for your children.
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Remove technology from your child’s room. As parents I want to share with you that much like many other parents, we struggle to get our children to put down their phones, computers, or whatever device they are on. I have noticed myself and my husband often repeating to our children to put down their device. Rather than constantly nagging them which is ineffective, we are working on a structure for technology use (and it's a work in progress!). A rule that we have established is that phones and ipods need to be plugged in at night where we can see them and away from children’s bedrooms.
Please share with me what you have been doing with your children to get back into the swing of things this year! I would love to hear other ideas. You are welcome to contact me if you would like more tips or strategies for supporting your children with their school work, homework, or other routines. Have a great week!
Beth