A new year means an opportunity for new beginnings for adults and children alike. Although the year often begins with excitement for starting fresh, making resolutions, and setting goals, unfortunately we get busy and it is easy to slip back into old habits. In the winter months it can be even more challenging to remain on the path we have decided to follow. So here I will share with you from my professional and personal experience, my 4 principles for 2020 that can help motivate you and your children to be more confident, successful, and happier this year.
Have a growth mindset - Adults much like children are growing and learning constantly. Sharing this with children through our actions and words helps them see that. We too make mistakes and they need to see us own them and take action to make changes for the better.
Try something new - Growing and learning involves a willingness to do new things. We model an open-minded spirit for our children when we try a new food, an activity, go to an unfamiliar place, or hang out with people we don’t know so well. Try something new with your child!
Do something that scares you - Fears are real for adults. Children don’t always know or realize we are afraid of things. I am trying more and more to be open with my children about my fears while showing them through my actions and telling them that I am working on facing my fears and overcoming them so that they don’t limit me. Try things that make you uncomfortable and then try them again and again. Children need to see that you are willing to step into your own discomfort if you want them to do the same.
Connect through listening - Reality is that parents are busy. I know that I am guilty of not always listening to what my children are telling me. Especially when they say “Mommy listen to me.” Each child comes to me with their own need for connection, support, and daily interaction. Listening to our children requires us to be present in the moment - meaning put away our phones and pay attention. I need to take the time to listen to each of my children, even for a few minutes every day. By listening to them and being present when they are sharing their experiences and feelings we form lasting connections.
In the coming months I will continue to write about topics that are important to parents and children and share tools and strategies from my experience as an educator and as a mom of 6 children. Please share your ideas and questions with me. If there are specific topics that you would like me to write about or consult with me about you can send me a message. I hope 2020 brings you and your children lots of opportunities for learning and growth.
Have a happy new year!
Beth
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